So what's in this for you?
Men show up to break unhealthy family cycles, find purpose, reduce anger, and even better understand those around them. The big payoff, however, may be in areas you can't even imagine today. It all begins with simply showing up. Many of us arrived at our first meeting not sure where the journey would take us. Here are a few examples (names are changed).
The benefits that can come out of left field; after working for months on his angry outbursts and emotional management, Matt shared,
As I work on myself,
I was out of integrity with my word, my time, and with my actions. And everyone but be could see that.
I came to grips with how I was showing. I 'turned round' to a new attitude and learned methods to better manage my intentions and promises. And at the end of it all, I saw something unexpected...
It had been years since I'd been able to
We doubt that Chris ever thought about what would be said at his funeral. He joined the men's group in his 80s. He arrived ready to attack a regret: lamenting all the things he had avoided throughout his life due to perfectionism.
It wasn't until late in life that he saw perfectionism for what it was -- not moving towards excellence, but running from failure -- a deep fear of making a mistake. To meet this debilitating habit head-on, Chris created a new, radical maxim for his life:
Anything worth doing
As novel as this was, it's not what he’ll be most remembered for. Chris died just a few years after we met him. A few of us attended his funeral.
Though just a fraction of his life involved the men's group, three of his relatives mentioning it during their eulogies -- because they'd witnessed something remarkable: Chris growing and changing right to the end; an old dog learning new tricks.